When to have sex with someone you are seeing is an issue withwhich all singletons deal. Some people have rules, like after threemonths, three dates, or some actually wait a whole three hours.
You can take the "employer" route and opt for background checks,drug screenings and all manner of blood tests, or you could be likeSamantha from Sex and the City and not even require a lastname.
I don't think, although it may appear otherwise, that the ruleshave changed too much over the years.
There is the infamous one-night stand. Let me suggest that ifyou want to partake in this indulgence that you be assured bothparties are aware of the brief nature of the encounter, which doesnot mean leaving a note by the bed as you practice your ninja-likeescape.
One-night-stands have a bad reputation and are not high on thelist of moral behaviors, but they happen all the same, so becareful.
You may want to avoid having one-nighters with people you willsee on a regular basis. For one, they may feel the need to share,in detail, using visual aids, the events of the previousevening.
Besides, the whole point of the one-night-stand is not to seethe person anymore.
Let me clear up a misconception while I'm on the subject.One-nighters do not make men pimps and turn women into sluts. It isthe person and not the act that conveys hoochie-ness. However,ladies should keep in mind that this is a popular, although sexist,opinion.
If you want to keep your virtuousness intact, avoid theone-nighter at all costs.
But when is it OK to take that step? That all depends onyou.
Some people have reasons, religious or otherwise, for waiting.If you are dating someone like this, you should respect theirwishes.
Some people wait until they are in love, and I think that is afabulous idea.
The only thing you can do in a relationship is be honest withthe other person. If you are ready to take a step about which yourpartner seems hesitant, have a discussion about it.
Unless you have a good reason for having a rule, I suggest youforget about rules. Follow your heart and your mind.
But for goodness sake, please protect your body! Sex is not tobe taken lightly, as it can lead to pregnancy or disease. Sowhenever you decide to take that step, do it with caution. Sendcomments and/or questions to tnamore@yahoo.com.
