I was curiously diverted from my usual studies Saturday andsomehow ended up drinking and dancing the night away.
I'm still trying to figure out how that happened.
I blame the indulgence on stress imposed by being tossed like arag doll from the mechanical bull at Spring Fling.
While resting my stiletto-clad feet in the nearly vacant andtotally unnecessary VIP section at Vortex, I was approached by acharming Irishman.
At first, I questioned his intentions. I was earlier approachedby a real suave guy who said my thong (an assumption he made) wouldlook great hanging from his ceiling fan. Although original andthought provoking, it struck me he may have had less-than-honorableintentions.
But being a talkative person by nature and intrigued by anyonewith an accent, I decided to see what he had to say (the Irish guy,not the thong man).
I was pleased to find out he was a perfect gentleman and justinterested in friendly conversation. He mentioned his girlfriendhad just come for a visit from out of town.
This reminded me that one of my loyal readers, Jeff, hadmentioned something about long-distance relationships recently.
Long-distance relationships are not for the faint of heart.
I've heard good "...and then we got married" stories and bad"...so it turns out he's wanted in three states" stories.
If you don't trust your partner implicitly, don't try it. Thejealousy will get to you.
When someone is in another state, you have no way of knowingwhat they are up to except to ask. So you'd better be prepared tobelieve what they say.
I have never been in a long-distance relationship. I have movedseveral times and have had to leave boyfriends behind.
It's not easy, but I never thought either of us would be able tobe faithful. I won't cheat, so it seemed the logical thing was tobreak up.
However, sometimes there is someone special who is worth thewait. In this case, make sure the feeling is mutual.
You will need to be confident in yourself as well as yoursweetie. What happens if you meet someone who could fulfill allyour desires and lives in the same city? What next, a long-distancebreak up? By phone, fax or e-mail?
Face-to-face conversation is so much better, but it's somethingthat doesn't come easy in a long-distance relationship. Through thephone, and especially with e-mail or instant messaging,misunderstandings can abound.
I'm not saying LDs can't work, but I would like to emphasizethat they take nerves of steel. They work best for strong, secureand independent people. It is also best if there is some time framefor the separation to cease.
Before you max out your Visa on plane trips and phone bills,think about how long it will last and if the investment, bothemotional and financial, is worth it.
