It is a law so universal, it may as well have been written byNewton. As soon as a new person comes into your life, making youunavailable, you instantaneously become irresistible to theopposite sex.
The once dusty phone rings off the hook. Old boy/girlfriend,past prospects and previous first-round draft picks come crawlingout of the woodwork.
I was on the phone Friday, talking about what -- and who -- Iwas going to get into over the weekend, when my booty-call waitingstarted blowing up. Like a dot com before the bubble burst, mystock had unexpectedly gone through the roof.
I began to wonder if I was emitting some powerful pheromone.
Why can't we be so sought after all the time? Why is it that assoon as we take ourselves off the market, people start waiting inline to get their names on the list?
Maybe it boils down to the lesson learned in freshman economics.It's all about supply and demand.
It could be that masochistic group who always wants what theycan't have.
Or is it like a club? The harder it is to get into, the moreexclusive and popular it is. In that case, call me 112, becausethis line is getting long.
There are many options if you find yourself in such aprecarious, yet ego-boosting, position. One player-popular optionis to stock up the stable for a rainy day. Keep them wanting moreuntil you're no longer unavailable, at which point you take fulladvantage of the on hold hotties -- not very nice.
Another option is to explore all options, available or not. Youmust consider that the one you're seeing may do this as well. Thisplan has serious backfire capability. You could get busted andpossibly ruin two good things. I do not recommend this plan. Itcould turn you into the Cruella de Ville of dating. You may as wellintroduce the stables to each other. "Hey Big, this is Baller, oneof the other guys I'm stringing along." Trust me, it doesn't goover well.
Yet another option, and possibly the road less traveled, is topolitely decline other invitations. Unplug the hotline! It's notthe most exciting option, but maybe your new crush is worth it.This is the path I recommend, especially if you want to continueseeing the new guy or girl. Plus, it'll save you a few trips toconfession.
Please e-mail me at tamore@memphis.edu regarding nextweek's topic: a question and answer session about single,attractive people with good personalities (they do exist) who arehaving problems finding someone.
