As I was self-administering CPR after a 2-mile run last night,it occurred to me that was the third time in the past week I hadrun -- voluntarily.
Usually you can take it for granted that if you see me running,you'd better start running too, because it's not for exercise.
But spring is here, and I have sprung into action to look mybest for my skimpy summer wardrobe.
There is something about spring that sends people's hormonesinto overdrive. We are all working a little harder to get noticedby that coveted spring fling.
No matter how trying the single life can be, especially in thethrows of spring fever, it is also your time to be free beforewalking the plank. Enjoy it while you can.
So you can see you are not alone, here are more e-mails fromfellow singletons.
T. Craig wrote, "I am an extremely shy person who has always hadproblems meeting women. When I do meet a woman, she is immature orhas kids. I prefer neither. As far as a potential mate isconcerned, I don't ask for much. Just someone 21 or older, no kids,has goals and plans for life, non-materialistic and who is willingto open her mind and expand her horizons. Is that too much toask?"
No, that is not too much to ask. However, if you set too manylimits on who you will date, you may have to wait longer to findsomeone. There are many young, single mothers out there now. Keepin mind that moms can be attractive, nurturing, fun andresponsible. So if you can handle it, don't rule them out.
Expectations are OK. Just don't set them so high that no one canmeasure up.
As for being shy, there's only one thing I can say: get over it.The more you let your inhibitions go the easier it gets, sopractice.
D. Diamond wrote, "I'm a 72-year-old single, divorced dad, auditstudent who would be happier if I had a relationship with a youngwoman. I take a class or two every semester and developed a couplefriendships over the years, but they graduated and got married.What's a guy to do?"
No offense, but at 72 it's possible that girls in their early20s are out of your league, unless you're incredibly rich andlooking for an Anna Nicole type. But maybe that wasn't what youwere talking about.
Dating younger women is fine, especially if you are young atheart. I suggest you find some extracurricular activities thatinvolve women closer to their 30s or 40s. My advice to you is tojoin an aerobics class, take up motorcycle riding or some othergroup activity.
Don't give up. There are many advantages to dating older men.They tend to be more responsible, better lovers and wiser in theways of the world. So, even at the tender age of 72, you are stilla hot commodity.
There are more e-mails to come, so stay tuned. I will respond toa question about long distance relationships next week, so pleaseemail me at tamore@memphis.edu.