I assure you, there is nothing wrong with you ... well, most ofyou. Everyone, no matter how beautiful, funny or smart, has beenalone once. No one is above it all.
Still, it's no fun watching your friends abandon you for datenight while you can't seem to get out of your singleton rut.
There is nothing worse than the pathetic just-lost-your-puppystare of pity you get from a squeaky-voiced, pre-pubescent workerat the movies when you ask for one ticket to the latest romanticcomedy.
I have actually pretended like I was waiting for someone toavoid a sympathy hug and a box of Kleenex to go with the pint ofice cream he's sure I'll be buying.
I got an e-mail in response to my Valentine's Day rant to whichwe can all relate.
Sam wrote, "I haven't had a girlfriend and/or dated anyone forabout a year and a half now. Every one of my friends was with theirsweethearts last Saturday night (V-Day), and I felt left out. I ama good looking guy. Why do I have so much trouble with women?"
You never know when you might meet someone, so my suggestion isto make yourself as available as possible. Getting into a new groupof friends will increase your odds.
Don't decline invitations to watch television alone. Make andmaintain as many friends as possible.
Looks have nothing to do with being single. It's a commonmisconception.
Exude confidence. I call this the Jedi mind trick. With a coysmile, tell someone they want to go out with you instead of formingit as a question.
You don't have to have the suaveness of James Bond to beirresistible. Be sure of yourself, but not egotistical.
Another very important tip is to smile and make eye contact.Everyone looks better smiling. It shows that you are anapproachable person, and it sends come-talk-to-me vibes.
Get over your fear of rejection. It happens. It is not the endof the world. People sometimes say no, but it's not like they'regoing to kill you for asking.
If you find someone, and it is not working out, don't stay justto have someone. Never sell yourself short.
Be patient, as hard as that is. Fill your time with otherthings, like friends, work or hobbies. The less you're activelylooking, the more receptive you are to a good relationship.
I have more e-mails to respond to next week. Thank you for thefeedback. I look forward to more (tamore@memphis.edu).
Thank you, Greg, for recognizing me on Beale Street Friday. Ithank you in advance for not spreading truths, er, rumors about howscandalous my partner in crime, Asanta Brooks, and I looked and/oracted that night. I am currently destroying the photographicevidence.
