Have you ever caught yourself desperately searching for yoursunglasses, frantically running around trying to remember where youput them last, only to feel like a royal fool once you realize theyare on top of your head?
Some people find love much the same way, looking everywhere butright in front of them. University of Memphis student April Rowlandis one of those people.
Rowland met her friend at church (I keep telling you, it's agood place to be). Although they felt the chemistry right away, thetiming was all wrong. After a long friendship, Rowland found herfeelings becoming more intense.
One night in December, while she and her friend were walking onBeale Street after a movie, a stranger asked Rowland's friend ifshe were his wife. It took Rowland's breath away when he replied,"Not yet." The two have been together since.
The benefits of finding love with a friend are tempting. Thereis no nerve-racking first date, and you can say goodbye to thoseexpensive background checks.
In When Harry Met Sally, Billy Crystal said men and women cannever be "just friends" because there will always be sexualtension.
That sexual tension can work to your advantage though. I can'tsay enough about the power of anticipation.
If you've carefully contemplated what it would be like to kiss afriend, when you finally do it, it's like discovering incrediblevalue in a place you never expected.
A first kiss with a friend is one of the best first kissesaround. It's scary yet exciting.
However, for all the benefits, there can be some pitfalls. Yourfriendship might not survive the break up. While some people can befriends and put the past behind them, others have difficultyletting go of feelings and making the transition.
While deciding whether to cross the friendship line, you shouldconsider if your friendship will survive the jump. An anonymouse-mailer warned that crossing this line can be messy, especiallywhen doing it with a best friend's girlfriend. You couldunwittingly be hooked for jealousy bait.
Everyone, except my good friend and Daily Helmsman staffreporter Stanley Dunlap, is welcome to comment about this column orany other, tamore@memphis.edu. Remember,Stanley, I am right and you are wrong.
Thank you Jeff Krause, a glorified button pusher for 103.5 SoulClassics, who perceptively informed me that their Valentine'sweekend was probably just an effort to up the station's ratingswith an entire weekend of "hot buttered" love songs.
